The Biggest Mistakes Made in Relationships

Relationships are difficult to sustain. 

Most people carry through a relationship without any joy.

We all start our new relationships with hopes, dreams, and wonderful aspirations. But oftentimes, we see couples, or in our own relationships, where things turn sour.  

So what can be done to keep a relationship strong and joyous? Avoid these common mistakes:

1. Not investing enough time in your relationship

2. “Housework” is not just for women. You can learn how to do laundry, vacuum the house and wash the dishes if you haven’t learned in the past.

3. Your partner is NOT your Mom/Dad and is not responsible to help you remember what it takes to keep harmony and peace in your relationship.

4. Thinking everything is about you and for you. Basically being selfish in a relationship.

5. Storming out of an argument without an agreement to at least come back later for resolution

6. Not listening too and supporting your partner’s ideas, even if you don’t believe in them

7. Constantly talking smack about their family members. You knew who they were before you became involved with them and whether you like it or not, they are there to stay. Please remember that blood is thicker than water. That doesn’t mean you can’t voice an opinion occasionally, it just means don’t constantly rail on their family even if you are right. You’ll plant a seed that may grow into a thorn bush.

8. Not taking your time in bed with her to allow her to grab a piece of heaven. Men typically want quick affection, sex, and security with a woman. And then we want the space and relaxed distance. Women tend to want space and relaxed distance. THEN they want affection, sex, and a build-up of trust and security.

9. Not learning to be emotionally available. Women aren’t asking you to stop being a man, just talk about who you are, where you came from, past history and future dreams.) If this is hard for you, seek help or join a group. Counseling can be difficult for men. It is traditionally based on talking and sharing. These can be more conducive for women. But going to counseling is not a sign of weakness and will benefit both of you tremendously.

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