FAQ 

• Over 94% of our couples leave their intensive with better then expected results!
• We give the opportunity for both of you to be heard, but offer resolution, so you can move past being stuck.
• We focus on one married couple at a time. This allows us to stay sharp and continually enhance our program using state-of-the-art research.
• We work at a foundational level, getting to the root of conflict. We focus ONLY on the issues you are facing and what you share with us.
• We don’t open a can of worms and let you go home to deal with them… it’s our priority to help you resolve issues before you go home.

• We specialize in RESETTING relationships, dedicating our efforts to assist troubled married couples in their healing journey. While many counselors rely on a variety of theoretical approaches, we concentrate solely on solution-oriented strategies, allowing us to stay sharp and continually refine our program through the latest research and data.
• We don’t follow the ineffective once-a-week counseling model that has only about a 7% success rate.
• Our goal is not just to mend broken marriages but to help you reconstruct them, guiding couples to understand where things went wrong while providing genuine solutions for a thriving marriage.
•  Unlike other counselors who may follow a one-size-fits-all approach that addresses various issues, we focus exclusively on the challenges you are facing and the insights you share with us, tailoring our approach to what matters most to you.
• Our counselors are passionate about their work, continually learning and developing their skills, which makes all the difference.
• Ultimately, you play a crucial role in achieving our impressive 94% success rate; we ask that you come with an open heart, honesty, and a willingness to change, ready to embrace the possibility of a miracle.

3-day Retreats:  typically Monday through Wednesday

4-day Retreats: typically Monday through Thursday

5-day Retreats: typically Monday through Friday

While this is our prefered schedule, we now also offer weekend retreats!  We will work to customize a schedule to best suit your needs.

At My Marriage Intensive, we understand the unique challenges couples face and are committed to guiding you through a transformative journey that deepens your relationship. Our intensive marriage retreats are designed to equip you with practical tools and insights, fostering effective communication, understanding, and healing. You will learn to navigate conflicts, strengthen your emotional connection, and cultivate a shared vision for your future together. Embrace the opportunity to reconnect with your partner and rediscover the love that brought you together.

Some of what you will learn:

1. How to feel heard and understood by your spouse.
2. Each other’s deepest needs and how to meet them.
3. How to avoid and prevent conflicts, and in the event of arguments occurring, how to resolve them in a non-damaging way.
4. How to discover and heal from deep past hurts & trauma.
5. How to rebuild trust even if it has been broken.
6. How to get resolution on your top recurring issues.
7. And so much more…

• Infidelity & Affair Recovery (We have a proven and specific “Roadmap to Recovery” for couples who want to heal from the devastating experience of broken trust)
• Conflicts, Arguing and Communication Problems
• Complex Family & Parenting Issues
• Deep Hurts & Wounds and Trauma
• Communication & Connection

We adopt a Solution-Oriented approach in our ministerial counseling, supported by our ICF board-certified training. Our experience, along with extensive research, indicates that this method is the most effective form of helping couples succed, delivering results that can last for a lifetime.

We are dedicated to your long-term success, which sets us apart from our competitors. Our comprehensive after-care program is an integral part of the Intensive experience. You will leave with hand-outs and a manual designed to foster growth in your relationship and help you stay on the path we’ve established together. Additionally, we provide a marriage toolkit packed with valuable resources to support your journey. For six months after your experience, we offer complimentary phone and email support because we want to be there for you even after you leave. If you find you need further assistance, we provide paid follow-up programs, online counseling, and small group support that may be ideal for you. We are also in the process of offering more classes, both in-person and online, available for an additional fee.

Our office is located in the Charlotte, NC Metro area.  Charlotte-Douglas International Airport is a few miles away. CLT Airport has a very high number of direct flights from/to all over the country. Once your dates are confirmed our exact location will be disclosed in your on-boarding documents.

Over 80% of our couples come from outside the state of North Carolina.

For your convenience, we will send you a list of hotels that are close to our office.

Yes. Once your dates are confirmed and you have secured your payment, you will receive a welcome e-mail with further instructions. Our location is disclosed at this time as well as hotel options nearby. You will be asked to each individually fill out a “Confidential Questionnaire” and e-mail it back to us prior to our time together. Also, we suggest that you do not discuss your issues prior to the Intensive. Give yourself a mental break so you can be better equipped for your retreat.

Yes. If there has been any physical violence in the past 12 months, or if a spouse is currently addicted to a substance, Intensive Counseling may not be the best fit for you. We would need to evaluate further before we could give the OK for a couple to come in certain circumstances.

Our in-session work is just the beginning of your transformation. In order to make drastic changes happen, you will have the opportunity to try out new behaviors in your homework.

In order to have a sucessful Intensive, homework is divided into 3 parts:

1. Some reading.
2. Some writing.
3. Ways to practice your new skills. Behavior requests.

Our Intensive Retreat typically consists of:

We will schedule you for a four hour block of counseling per day. After a quick rest and dinner break, a couple has another 2 to 2.5 hours of homework to do back at the hotel after dinner there is also morning homework involved.

Please make sure to get good rest as this is will be a long day. We also ask you to talk about your disagreements or start new ones during the days of your intensive so we can be of most help to your situation.

Since we see only one couple at a time, we unfortunately can’t include food and lodging. Our cost reflects this and gives you the flexiblity to stay and dine how you choose. This will give you the option to save money or stay at a luxurious hotel. After a couple schedules, we send them info on nearby hotels, and restaurants abound in the Charlotte area!

Currently, we don’t accept insurance. Insurance companies typically don’t pay for intensive counseling they pay for traditional one-hour-a-week counseling. 

No, you don’t have to stay at a hotel. However, we strongly recommend staying in a hotel for the following reasons:

• We want you to get away from all your day-to-day responsibilities, ie. kids, dishes, work etc.
• We beleive that this is an important time for you. Therefore, we want you to have more time focusing on just your spouse.
• You will have a much fuller experience when you stay in a hotel.

Unfortunately, we are not able to accept any payment plans. You may apply for PayPal credit which works as a payment plan.  Partial scholarships may be available. Email us directly for more information on partial scholarship opportunities (hello@mymarriageintensive.com SUBJECT: Scholarship Information). Also, many churches offer sponsorship for intensives. We encourage you to reach out to your church and see if they can help cover a portion of the cost.